Sugar and Spice

We are often asked why we want to adopt a little girl. It was really a simple decision… During my days in the international development world I saw an amazing disparity between men and women, boys and girls. Girls, simply put, are more vulnerable.

That doesn’t on any level mean that only girls should be adopted or that boys don’t need families… NOT AT ALL! Every child deserves a family that will love and protect them! It is just to say that God has put a special calling on our lives to adopt a little girl.

We are overjoyed whenever we hear of anyone adopting. Whether locally or internationally. Whether boys or girls. Whether older children or brand new babies.

To be involved on any level with adoption (as an adoptive family or foster family, or as a supporter of adoptive families) is a tremendous gift and it is a glimpse into the heart of God.

“In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will” Ephesians 1:5 


Why now?

Since we were married less than 8 years ago we have moved 7 times. We have lived in DC, Oregon, Washington and California. We have gone from DINKs (duel income no kids) to unemployed students to single income duel kids. It has been a whirlwind to say the least. Starting an adoption process in the middle of all that would have been impossible.

We have been in California less than a year, but we finally feel like we have found HOME. Jonathan always says that he wants to be in this church, pastoring these people for the next 40 years. Lord willing, we will! We are as settled as we have ever been.

I mean… our lives are fairly uncomplicated right now so we thought we needed to give ourselves a challenge… nah! We feel like the Lord is encouraging us to step out now.

In the story of Esther we see that God placed her in just the right place at just the right time, “for such a time as this”. Sure, we aren’t saving a nation here, but we are hoping to save one little girl… our little girl. That perfect little girl for our family.

So, why now? Because she is waiting for her forever family.

Waiting to wait…

From the very beginning Jonathan and I have talked, prayed, dreamed and schemed about international adoption. The only question was, do we adopt first or have biological kids first. Having bio kids won… it was a bit more affordable. I can’t say we are much more financially ahead. This calling, however, has not diminished and, through lots of prayer, we feel the time is almost here to jump into this daunting adoption adventure.

Our hearts are drawn to bringing home a little girl from East Asia. I will tell you more about how we came to this decision sometime soon. But, suffice to say, we did a lot of praying and thinking. But we also know that God has a way of changing even the most well thought out plans. So we will keep praying and taking things one step at a time.

We hope to begin the process in October, but lets be honest, we are pretty much into this process already. I have started planning and pinning and researching all there is to know about international adoption. And we are filling out the 16 page application to see if we qualify to fill out more forms to see if we qualify (I’ve been told this will be our life for the next year and a half or so). We are also setting aside as much money as humanly possible! We are told the process will cost about $36,000. YIKES! We certainly don’t have that kind of money sitting around, so we will be doing a lot of FUNdraising.

In the mean time we wait to begin the waiting.